One of my favorite woman at my church once quoted the familiar scripture that we have not because we ask not to me (see James 4:2). This same scripture came up in my devotional a few days ago. Why are we so afraid to ask for what we really want or help when we really need it?
A lot of times, I don't personally ask out of fear. I also don't want to owe anyone anything and I feel like very a few people genuinely do things for me out of the kindness of their heart. A while back though, I was even afraid to ask God for things. I thought that some of the things I wanted were to trivial for God's time or I had created my own mess so I needed to deal with it instead of asking to be delivered from it. Over the years though, I have realized that I wasn't getting what I wanted because I did not ask or really seek it out. Once I started asking God, burdens were lifted over time.
The key though is asking and not giving up when we don't get it right away. There is always a reason for delay. I have had to accept the fact that at times I was not ready for what I wanted or sometimes what I wanted was not really what I needed.
It isn't so hard to ask my father in heaven for what I want anymore--I talk to God about a lot of random things now. But, the real difficulty lies in asking people or taking help when it is offered. This comes with a whole different list of issues--that could be a whole different post--but when someone offers us help we need, we have to get better at accepting it. Wonder woman does not exist--see my previous post on that here. Sometimes, people don't follow through--that is on them even if it ticks us off--but we cannot allow fear cause us to be overwhelmed because we did not seek help.
I am totally guilty of passing up help or not asking but I am starting to find that when I accept help, I am more times than not better as a result. I am going to need a lot more help soon so I am going to practice asking in the mirror so I can get more comfortable with it.
Doesn't it feel great after you help someone who really needs it?
See Matthew 7:7-12 for more on this and tell me what you think.